Understanding Criminal Conversation
In North Carolina, criminal conversation is a civil claim (not an actual crime) that allows a spouse to sue the person who engaged in sexual relations with their husband or wife. It’s one of North Carolina’s “heart-balm torts,” along with alienation of affection. To succeed in such a lawsuit, the plaintiff must prove two key elements:
- A valid marriage existed at the time.
- The defendant engaged in sexual intercourse with the plaintiff’s spouse during that marriage.
Because these are serious allegations, the courts require credible evidence — often gathered through careful investigation — to prove the claim.
Types of Evidence Courts Consider
1. Proof of a Valid Marriage
- A marriage certificate or official record.
- Testimony that the couple was legally married at the time of the alleged affair.
Without a valid marriage, there is no claim for criminal conversation.
2. Evidence of Sexual Intercourse
This is the most important — and often the most challenging — element. Direct proof is not always required; circumstantial evidence can be enough if it clearly points to sexual relations.
Common forms of evidence include:
- Witness testimony: Friends, neighbors, or private investigators who saw the spouse and the defendant together in compromising situations (e.g., entering a hotel room late at night and leaving the next morning).
- Electronic communications: Texts, emails, or social media messages that suggest or admit to a sexual relationship.
- Photos or video surveillance: Visual proof of the spouse and the defendant spending the night together or showing affection beyond normal friendship.
- Admissions: A confession by either the spouse or the defendant.
North Carolina courts have long held that circumstantial evidence, such as opportunity and inclination, can support an inference that intercourse occurred.
3. Opportunity + Inclination
Lawyers often frame evidence around these two ideas:
- Opportunity: The defendant and the spouse were alone together in private settings where sexual activity could occur (hotel rooms, apartments, vehicles, etc.).
- Inclination: Flirtatious messages, displays of affection, or testimony showing a romantic interest between them.
When both are established, the court may reasonably infer sexual intercourse even without direct proof.
Examples of Useful Evidence
- Phone records showing frequent late-night calls or texts.
- Receipts for hotel stays or trips taken together.
- GPS data or credit card charges suggesting clandestine meetings.
- Eyewitness accounts of public affection (kissing, holding hands, etc.).
- Social media posts or photographs suggesting intimacy.
What You Don’t Need
Unlike alienation of affection, criminal conversation does not require proof of harm to the marriage or intent to break up the relationship. The act of intercourse itself, during the marriage, is enough.
Why Professional Legal Help Matters
Gathering and presenting this evidence can be complicated and emotionally taxing. Investigators may be necessary to collect surveillance. Lawyers are critical in ensuring evidence is admissible and presented effectively in court.
At Adkins Law, PLLC, we have extensive experience with North Carolina’s heart-balm torts. We know what judges and juries look for in these cases, and we help clients build the strongest claim possible while protecting their dignity during a difficult process.
Final Thoughts
If you suspect your spouse has engaged in an affair and you are considering a claim for criminal conversation, the evidence must establish both the validity of your marriage and sexual relations between your spouse and the defendant. Because the stakes are high, working with an attorney is the best way to ensure your rights are protected.
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